Mr. Brightside - DISCLAIMER
So. As mentioned in my last post, I'm writing a series of blog posts based on my relationship with my ex-boyfriend - aka Mr. Brightside. Maybe you're asking yourself if any of this writing will be the rantings of a woman scorned; a bitter ex-girlfriend with a bone to pick.
Let me make it very clear that this is not what it's going to be; I'm not writing any of this from the perspective of someone who hates her ex.
I don't hate Mr. Brightside - however I do have negative feelings about some of his behaviour within the context of the relationship, and about the relationship itself.
Mr. Brightside was exactly what I needed him to be. I see the purpose and can find meaning in all of the events of my life, all of my relationships, and Mr. Brightside had a purpose. He was my epiphany relationship."Throughout your relationship history, you’ve had breakups and no doubt felt that whatever happened had galvanised change, only for you to find yourself in a similar or worse situation all over again.
I am an entirely different person now from the one I was when I met Mr. Brightside.
The woman I am now would never date Mr. Brightside, but it is only because I dated Mr. Brightside that I can say that I will never date a man like him again.
We cannot love ourselves and hate the experiences that shaped us, and my relationship with Mr. Brightside changed my life for the better. It caused me to raise my standards, to truly see my own worth, and to understand myself and my unhealthy relationship patterns in a way I never have before; in a way that means I will never, ever make the same mistakes again.
I am grateful to Mr. Brightside for all the ways he failed in this relationship; him not valuing me means that for the first time in my life, I truly value myself.