JUST A THOUGHT: Becoming the Main Character in Our Own Lives
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The BIG THOUGHT in this LITTLE POST:
Taking full RESPONSIBILITY over our lives allows us to be in CONTROL of our lives.
Are you the main character in your own life?
I mean really, are you?
Are you living life on centre stage, or are you living on the sidelines preparing at any moment to exit stage left?
A lot of us aren't the stars of the show in the story of our lives; I know for a long time (until, like, yesterday..?) I wasn't starring in my own movie.
Why don't we take a starring role? How do we end up becoming supporting characters in a movie that's supposed to be about us?
That's the simple answer: CONTROL.
Who has it, and who doesn't.
Who has control over our lives and our decisions.
Now you might be thinking "Well I do of course!" But do you really? I mean are you really in charge of your decisions? How much of the world around you are allowing to take your decision making ability away from you?
The expectations of others - those closest to you as well as society at large - will quietly but surely steal your autonomy until they are centre stage, and who you are and what you want has been relegated to the sidelines.
Great. So we know what the issue is.
Now. How do we fix it?
Being willing to take full and total responsibility for the consequences of our decisions and actions will allow us to take back our CONTROL.
When we don't take full responsibility, it's because we're still expecting on some level, that those we have given decision-making power (aka control) over our lives to will be the ones responsible if things don't turn out. That they will 'save' us if things go wrong.
But when we take full responsibility, when we know for sure that we'll be ok and that we can take care of ourselves no matter what happens, then we don't need to rely on others to save us. And that means that we can make decisions based on what we want and need because we're not expecting anything from anyone.
It's time we put ourselves back into the drivers seat; so take the wheel and drive.
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