WORRYING: How to Stop

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The BIG THOUGHT in this LITTLE POST:

You stop worrying by letting go of attachment.

You stop worrying by identifying the things that are within your control, and those that are not.



Worrying is the quest for a guarantee, all so we can find the confidence to press on. It’s an endless search for a promise: the outcome will be worth the effort we put into the process. Worrying is impossible without attachment. No one worries about the weather on Saturn, because no one is counting on the weather to be a certain way. The time we spend worrying is actually time we’re spending trying to control something that is out of our control.



God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, 
courage to change the things I can, 
and wisdom to know the difference.



You stop worrying by letting go of attachment.

The more attached you are to people / places / events, the more you'll start to worry when it looks as though things won't go the way you thought they 'should.'

As quoted above "No one worries about the weather on Saturn, because no one is counting on the weather to be a certain way."

As long you're not counting on anyone or anything to be a particular way, your mind will be free.

The moment you attach, worry begins, because what if it doesn't turn out that way?

You stop worrying by letting go of attachment.



Once you make up your mind, that’s when the fear begins. Because what if it doesn’t turn out that way? What happens inside of you when you make up your mind about something, when you’ve decided something, and then it starts to go differently once you’re in the middle of it, what happens for you? If you start to feel frightened, like the rug is being pulled out from under you, stop and look at yourself. Ask yourself “When did I get certain about this? When did I stop being curious?"

If you stay curious you stay at peace with the unknown. You are content to allow it to unfold; you are content to wait to see what’s around the corner, until you get around the corner.


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You stop worrying by identifying the things that are within your control, and those that are not.

Letting go of control doesn't mean you actively pursue chaos; it means that those things you can do something about, you do something about them.

You can show up very well-prepared for an interview (in your control).

But the final decision is out of your hands (not in your control).

And those things you can't do anything about?

You let them go.

Because you cannot change the weather; you can only prepare for it.

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Worry comes from attachment, specifically to things we cannot control.

Step 1 - Detach.

Step 2 - Identify the things you have control over and do something about them. Identify the things you have no control over and let them go.

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